So, what are the four agreements and how can they help in a business environment? Simply put, they are: agreeing with ourselves not to take things personally (#2) offers us the opportunity to look inward and find and change old arrangements and beliefs – most often lies from our childhood image – that emotionally captivate us and push us to react. The author of the article describes precisely the “dream” of people that distorts what people say or do. It is a powerful gift of Totec wisdom. The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz is a wonderful book for stress management and personal growth. It is written in simple language, but it deals with complex topics that can help you make far-reaching changes in your life. I`m in the third book and I understand the concepts because they explain a lot of the methods I`ve learned to make a difference. This is not manipulation, it is that the result of a particular situation changes according to your perception, feeling and reaction. The consequences are always different in case of positive interaction. We learn all kinds of negative behaviors.
Again, I realized that if you sew the story and discover the lesson there, it makes perfect sense. If you lash out of love for past negative behavior and forgive the person who made you feel unfairly punished or abused, there is nothing left to respond to except in a positive way. You remove everything else, and all that remains is the truth, and you can rewrite every trauma and how you will respond to it in the future. They break the pattern. You will become an exception. Journaling helps. How did I feel? What for? Where did I feel like this for the first time? It takes a lot of soul research to arm yourself, and it takes you out of here and now to discover a pattern of learned behavior. I have evacuated many of these patterns from my life to be happy. Here too, I insist on self-improvement. You have to want to change and be healthy to get the job done.
When I was talking to someone who showed emotional vibes of what we`re saying, less than at least anger (shame and lack of self-love). I would recommend professional advice before trying self-improvement methods. You must recognize that no one can take everything if you have the ability to love, to be loved, and to know love. I highly recommend these books. We can use the fourth chord, Do Your Best, to encourage us to aspire positively. But this agreement also recognizes that “our best” varies from moment to moment, depending on our circumstances and mental state. Recognition of this fact leads to the realization that everything we are doing right now is of our best, and this awareness can prevent us from flogging ourselves if we are not up to an unreasonable standard of perfection. If your convictions create deep happiness in you, then I say: keep them. If they cause trouble, if the beliefs of others are different, consciousness can give you the choice of what you believe and what you let go.
So many of our beliefs, concepts, agreements were fed to us as “truth” when we were young, and we accepted them literally and completely. The beginning of the four chords is how our animators domesticated us in a “dream” of life. The only dream they had at our disposal was the one they lived, which they received most often from their parents, etc. As always, your sharing is very much appreciated, Allan. For readers who haven`t explored Allan`s website and books, I highly recommend it….